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Taking One Day At A Time

2016-09-28T12:59:25+00:00 September 28th, 2016|General, Taking Care of Your Parents: My Own Story|

As an author who values words and tries not to touch a cliché with a ten foot pole, I was hesitant to use the title “One Day At A Time” for this post. Unfortunately, it fits the situation very well. What I have experienced with my mother in her mild and slow decline is that there are days when we have a delightful discussion about things at hand. We talk about the squirrels on the trees, trying to answer the question “What is the butterfly bush’s attraction,” and so on.

There are other days when I am not sure she fully knows who […]

Now That Mom Is Safe, Are We Happy?

2017-02-24T14:50:43+00:00 August 24th, 2016|General, Taking Care of Your Parents: My Own Story|

We’ve seen a decline in mom’s memory and her abilities for the past two and a half years. We used to be concerned that she was at home alone and could fall and be hurt, or worse. When she was in assisted living at the Nursing facility, she was a part of what the staff called their “frequent faller” program. She rarely did more than slide down onto her bottom, but it happened enough that her falls were charted. So giving her a ‘safe’ place to live didn’t stop the falling; it simply put her into a location where there […]

“We’re Doing Our Best, Mom”

2016-03-23T13:50:19+00:00 March 23rd, 2016|General, Taking Care of Your Parents: My Own Story|

Some months ago, I stopped updating this blog. It became a little too ‘close to the quick’ for me to continue to write. I have had a number of people contact me to let me know that hearing someone else’s story was a comfort to them; that they were not alone in walking through this situation. And you are not alone, if you are reading this as a caregiver to a loved one who is in a facility. . .

One of the things I have learned that I can do is provide mom with some consistency and in my case, […]

And then things changed. . .

2015-10-14T14:09:42+00:00 October 14th, 2015|Taking Care of Your Parents: My Own Story|

Some Senior citizens maintain their mental acuity throughout their entire life span. I had a client with whom I had dinner on her 99th birthday. She was slower, yes, but mentally alert. She passed a few weeks later, a true lady to the end.

For others it is not so. My mother recently had a trip to the local ER. She was more confused than ever, though she did recognize and know my brothers and me as soon as she saw us. She had an infection which affected her thinking and her memory. She was not sure where she was when […]

My Own Story: Where Should Mom Live?

2015-06-02T11:01:53+00:00 June 2nd, 2015|Taking Care of Your Parents: My Own Story|

Taking care of your parent in assisted living should make life a little easier for both of you. There are several keys to ensuring, as much as possible, that after the transition to assisted living, the day-to-day living is easy. One key is choosing a facility wisely.

When choosing a facility, include your parent as much as possible. Your mother or father (or both) are going to be living there, not you. Let them ask questions; ‘kick the tires’ so to speak.

You also want to consider location. More than one court case has been fought because a parent was moved from […]

Taking Care of Our Loved Ones: My Own Story

2015-02-17T14:41:05+00:00 February 17th, 2015|General, Taking Care of Your Parents: My Own Story|

We all want the best for our loved ones. My mom wanted to stay in her own house ‘for as long as possible.’ And that’s what my brothers and I did. We put as much support around her as we could. We tried to take care of the house, which was built in the 60’s so it needed consistent attention by 2010, and allowed her to stay in her home.
What changed, however, was mom. She was no longer the vibrant, “digging in the garden and hanging out the laundry” person she had always been. And most of us do not […]

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